Do we realize that we’re struggling with a legalistic view? Here’s a test: If you believe that you will or won’t be blessed by God, or close to God because of something you’re doing or not doing, you’ve stumbled into legalism.
There are many grace truths that I have learned that I would never have been exposed to if I had been a “success” as a Christian. Some truths seem to only come to light if you’re prostrate on your back looking up at everything. One of the best helps to knowing grace is to fail.